If you know an 11-20+ year old with a serious attitude problem, do you think they deserve a gift for the holidays? What about parents who enable their kids to continue in their unproductive behaviors? Can't you just say, "Happy Holidays, pack your bags, you are going to military school tomorrow." If kids have NOT "been good this year," why get them anything if they haven't earned it or don't deserve it. Remember the days of getting lumps of coal and switches if you are on the naughty list? Stop baby-ing these kids and let them take some responsibility for their actions... do you think you are doing society a favor by stuffing their stocking with video games and cash? Come on... make this a holiday they will really remember.
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To be more specific, I am talking about individuals who are disrespectful to other people and who are not responsible for their actions. I'm not talking about a teenager who makes mistakes every once in a while, but rather individuals who make these behaviors a consistent part of their lifestyle.
Answer 1 :
Wow, I'm glad you're not my mom!
Usualy, a teenager misbehaving is having issues somewhere and the first thing you should do, instead of taking away his chrismas presents, is try to settle the issue and solve it. Communication is a key. If it doesnt work, there's always the old "not allowed to watch tv, go out, etc" thing. And then, psychological specialist. And THEN maybe boot camp.
Who are you to say who diserves a chrismas gift? Have you always been perfect? Come on! You're being too rough.
Yes taking responsability... but what does this have to do with chrismas which is, much more than about gifts, about family???
Taking chrismas away will make you the grinch, and make them resentful ... not very productive;)
Answer 2 :
Wow I'm going threw something just like that my son is 14 years old now his hasn't had a Christmas in 3years I paid for him to go to boot camp over the spring he worked on some of his issues but after camp was over he went back to his regular self so i took him to court to have him locked up he then change again long enough to go to court but now he is doing better his grades are coming back up his lack of respect is coming along so I have to keep on top of him because he now knows that I am so serious and I am his soul back bone this boys dad has never been in his life and making him understand that I am there for you not against you take the time to listen to your elders because we want the best for our young we don't want you to experience the sh*t we have gone threw.
Answer 1 :
Wow, I'm glad you're not my mom!
Usualy, a teenager misbehaving is having issues somewhere and the first thing you should do, instead of taking away his chrismas presents, is try to settle the issue and solve it. Communication is a key. If it doesnt work, there's always the old "not allowed to watch tv, go out, etc" thing. And then, psychological specialist. And THEN maybe boot camp.
Who are you to say who diserves a chrismas gift? Have you always been perfect? Come on! You're being too rough.
Yes taking responsability... but what does this have to do with chrismas which is, much more than about gifts, about family???
Taking chrismas away will make you the grinch, and make them resentful ... not very productive;)
Answer 2 :
Wow I'm going threw something just like that my son is 14 years old now his hasn't had a Christmas in 3years I paid for him to go to boot camp over the spring he worked on some of his issues but after camp was over he went back to his regular self so i took him to court to have him locked up he then change again long enough to go to court but now he is doing better his grades are coming back up his lack of respect is coming along so I have to keep on top of him because he now knows that I am so serious and I am his soul back bone this boys dad has never been in his life and making him understand that I am there for you not against you take the time to listen to your elders because we want the best for our young we don't want you to experience the sh*t we have gone threw.
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